Celebrating 5 years together…..

By Dagmar Spremberg on 18 May 2014


Celebrating 5 Years together…..

I am grateful for all the people in my life who have inspired me to believe in love and a conscious relationship, where we can grow and expand, surrender and fully be ourselves. It didn’t come easy for me, but I was never so much interested in pursuing a specific career, and my deepest longing was always to find true love, so I never gave up….

I struggled a lot, got heartbroken a few times, broke other people’s hearts, enjoyed deep love, made lots of compromises, thought I’d never find love again, longed for more, visualized true love in my meditations….

When I met Daniel I almost didn’t recognize him, I was so closed and scared……

But I had done some work with a powerful relationship coach and she taught me to look deeper at my own hopes, limiting beliefs and fears and helped me to acknowledge & work through them. When Daniel and I connected, I was able to trust myself and to slowly surrender, despite my fears….one of the best things I ever did!

What it takes is your willingness to do the work, your commitment not to walk away when it get’s tough, not from your Self, not from your partner. What you don’t solve in this relationship you will bring into the next, so why not rather work it out this time? Magic happens when you hold space for yourself and space for each other to transform. Daniel gives me an opportunity to be my fullest me and where I cannot see further and get stuck he encourages me to trust and go beyond. Together we can do better than alone. Together life is simply more fun.

I like to encourage you to do the work, to find your practice, to search and dream and visualize, to find support where needed, to surround yourself with people who live an inspiring relationship to you. Ask how they do it, what is their secret? Find out what works for them, and what works for you…..

Everything starts with you and the more clarity, love and commitment you find for yourself, the more will be reflected back to you.
You are beautiful and YOU DESERVE LOVE.

And if you find it, celebrate it and nourish it, so it will thrive and blossom.
Here’s to a beautiful summer,

with love

By Dagmar Spremberg on May 18, 2014 / , /


  1. Helena Buell on May 18, 2014 at 3:14 pm

    Beautiful Dagmar
    Thank you for sharing your journey of love.

    • Dagmar Spremberg on May 18, 2014 at 4:11 pm

      Thank you Helena, we are all here to inspire each other 🙂

  2. Paula on May 18, 2014 at 4:00 pm

    Thanks for sharing that Dagmar, it’s absolutely beautiful!

    • Dagmar Spremberg on May 18, 2014 at 4:10 pm

      Thanks Paula!

  3. Anne Margolis on May 18, 2014 at 4:02 pm

    Congratulations to you both, who are an inspiration to so many. How about a relationship, yoga and mediation workshop!?
    Anne, from your January retreat in Costa Rica

    • Dagmar Spremberg on May 18, 2014 at 4:10 pm

      HI Anne, thanks for your comment, we are definitely working on something like that, it’s really my passion to share with the world 🙂 I keep you posted!

  4. crystal augustono on May 18, 2014 at 4:16 pm

    Absolutely beautiful- Thank you for sharing ! Sometimes I see the best things in a moment where I need it the most.

    • Dagmar Spremberg on May 18, 2014 at 4:18 pm

      Thanks Crystal, it always works like that when you are open to see it 😉 Lots of love your way from Montezuma!!!

  5. Melanie on May 18, 2014 at 4:48 pm

    Beautiul. Thanks. Just what I needed.

    • Dagmar Spremberg on May 18, 2014 at 4:58 pm

      perfect! happy to hear that 🙂

  6. Hannah Eagle on May 18, 2014 at 5:09 pm

    Beautiful post, Dagmar. Thank you.
    I would like to share the work my husband and I do together that helps people attain the relationship you describe. http://www.Reology.org This practice adds to our other spiritual practices by giving us a new, more peaceful way to communicate. Speaking this way brings us into the present moment and empowers us to be able to respond rather than react. We have trainings in the US, Mexico, Costa Rica, and Japan and next year Roatan, Honduras. Would love to bring this to Montezuma sometime.

    • Dagmar Spremberg on May 18, 2014 at 5:30 pm

      absolutely! Thank you!

  7. Maria on May 18, 2014 at 5:35 pm

    Dagmar your letter just came into my inbox today and reading it was very inspiring. These days I find myself talking about finding someone to love a boyfriend a man !! all the time. And I resent myself for not having dealt with my personal issues years ago.Now Im almost 35 and still single,never had a relationship before. Scary as it is I still cannot fathom my life without any kind of love. Im surrounded by friends and family and even though I have many fears about my love life there is still some hope.
    Your words are very encouraging and I pray for one true love one day. Thank you so much

    • Dagmar Spremberg on May 18, 2014 at 5:40 pm

      Hi Maria, thank you for sharing. It’s really powerful to work with a relationship coach to transform whatever is holding us back, it might be limiting beliefs or traumatic experiences, but as long as we don’t face them and acknowledge them, we cannot heal and fully open to love. I wish you all the best and that you find the support you want. If you like some recommendations for a great coach, please don’t hesitate to ask!

  8. Katherine on May 18, 2014 at 6:35 pm

    Thank you for sharing, Dagmar. This is an inspiration. I am embarking on a journey of love and will take these words to heart. It is time be open to the magic of love.

    • Dagmar Spremberg on May 18, 2014 at 7:04 pm

      Yes! Right on, wish you a beautiful journey 🙂 all the best and much love to you!

  9. Laura Agrusti on May 18, 2014 at 6:42 pm

    Hello Dagmar!

    I am in a deep trouble with love, a long time ago. I had some sad experiences with men that leave me alone. I tried to modify me, to improve me, but every time, all boys that I met and I love, say to me that they are only attracted by sexual experiences with me and that I am only a friend for them and that they do not love me!

    I began to think that I am wrong, I am 38. Now I have a lot of fear for men. I do not understand them and I want to be alone and sad. If you have some suggestion for me, I will be happy.

    Love and blessings,


    • Dagmar Spremberg on May 18, 2014 at 7:03 pm

      Laura, thanks for sharing. All I can suggest is to work with somebody who will help you shift your beliefs and patterns, the work i did with a relationship coach was incredibly powerful and i am happy to recommend somebody to you. You don’t really want to live your life being sad and alone, you deserve love and to leave those sad experiences behind. Blessings to you!!!

  10. David Mudge on May 18, 2014 at 7:11 pm

    Thank you Dagmar.

    So beautifully written from your Heart.

    Osho also speaks to these truths and the paradox of Love and Freedom. May we embrace both.

    I really appreciate Daniel’s music.

    I love the way you are unfolding and evolving the character Dagmar in consciousness.

    Very Namaste


    • Dagmar Spremberg on May 18, 2014 at 7:18 pm

      Thank you David for your sweet feedback. We think freedom and love cannot exist together, then we realize they can feed each other….Namaste right back to you!!! All the best!

  11. Andreas on May 18, 2014 at 7:12 pm

    Thank you so much – I know it – there comes a time – you made your experiences – and think- better not to try again, better the quiet scratching discomfort than the noisy anger – but you are right – it is something we can’t forget – like a constant pain – we can’t forget about relationship.
    And we need to work this out – but need to find new ways of thinking – and consider what we do again and again from a different perspective – like meditation. kind of hard. but we do it for others too.
    Im glad to hear successstories – and Im grateful about yours – it always takes some courage to talk about it.
    And like what you write about the space you give each other. I also think now- if you give up the space may be by economical reasons – you give up something of much higher value.

    • Dagmar Spremberg on May 18, 2014 at 7:15 pm

      Thank you Andreas, for sharing your thoughts, we are all longing for the same…..wish you the best!!!!

  12. Adrienne on May 18, 2014 at 7:22 pm

    Beautiful and inspiring, just like you Dagmar! Thank you. Grateful to finally have the right man to share my life journey and your post made me realise I mustn’t take it for granted. Much love to you both.

    • Dagmar Spremberg on May 18, 2014 at 7:28 pm

      Adrienne…..thank you! i will always remember our talks about love when we were single in New York 😉 so happy we both found such great love….you are just too far away!!! i miss you…..keep celebrating your beautiful family! proud of you!!!

  13. Laura Agrusti on May 18, 2014 at 7:24 pm

    Sorry! Are you talking about Liyana?

    A lot of blessings along your path,

    • Dagmar Spremberg on May 18, 2014 at 7:25 pm

      yes, exactly, i worked with her, she is amazing!!!

  14. Rene on May 18, 2014 at 8:26 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing, Dagmar. In my experience with failed relationships (i’m now 45), I see that what I thought was love was actually a need for validation. I wanted approval so I made compromises (at great cost to my authenticity at times) thinking that would win me “love”. We all conform from childhood on to acting in a way that gets us what we want whether it’s playing the victim, Daddy’s little girl, taking care of everybody else’s needs before yours, the list goes on and on and we all have a plethora of characters that have been conditioned in us to adapt to different relationships. Different people different dynamic. Often times we choose partners that actually validate our issues rather than nurture the authentic soul. It is a gift when one finds another to grow in spirit with for that’s why we’re here in this grand school of consciousness. Love and much light to you two beautiful souls.

    • Dagmar Spremberg on May 18, 2014 at 8:33 pm

      Rene, thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! All the best & much love back to you.

  15. Douglas on May 18, 2014 at 10:32 pm

    Hey there Dagmar… awesome! Happy anniversary and bravo to Daniel and you on what you’ve been able to co-create.

    Believe me…. your love shines brightly and is felt by all around you… including me, all the way up here in New York! It is an inspiration and allows all to learn and and grow as well. That is the beauty of the human family!!!

    One love, Douglas

    • Dagmar Spremberg on May 18, 2014 at 10:45 pm

      awesome Douglas, thanks for the encouragement and beauty! YES!

  16. Clemens on May 19, 2014 at 9:30 pm

    Hi Dagmar,
    thank you for the inspiration and congratulations!
    It’s great how you share your experience and happiness. You’re very lucky.
    Thank you also for not sugar-coating it and pretending it’s all fun. We do have to work through our shit.
    What really worked for me was giving up the search, being happy with myself and just accepting what life had to offer. Two months later I met my partner and it was love at first sight – literally. 9 years later we are still together and I am grateful every single day.
    I think it’s sad though, that many of us think they are only complete in a relationship and that society is perpetuating this notion. Even today we are stuck in the belief, that we need to find a partner in life, get married, have kids, and then live happily ever after. What we don’t hear enough is that relationships can be bliss, but they can also be really tough. Just like being single can be bliss and it can be really tough. We should get over “you’ll find someone some day” and “don’t give up hope, there’s someone out there for you”. Maybe there is, maybe there isn’t. Maybe some people are meant to be single and are totally brilliant just the way they are. And you know what? Once you do have a partner society still thinks you’re incomplete… “So… do you have kids?”
    Dagmar – congratulations again on 5 years! I wish you and Daniel many, many more to come!
    Love & rockets!

    • Dagmar Spremberg on May 19, 2014 at 9:55 pm

      great Clemens, thank you so much for your response and sharing your own story! Congrats on the 9 years and consciously nourishing it with love and gratitude. I wish you many many more to come too…see you in Hamburg in summer 🙂

    • deanna on May 20, 2014 at 5:56 pm

      Clemens, I could not agree MORE!

      Dagmar, beautiful post. I am so happy for you and love the sentiment you convey.

      I hope to see you next year in Costa Rica!


  17. Lola on May 29, 2014 at 3:19 pm

    Dagmar thank you so much for your inspirational post and beautiful photo! And for your honesty! I look forward to staying with you at Los Mangos in November. With gratitude for the mirror you hold for us…x

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